During my free time, I would love to take a break at the canteen and join a bunch of male friends drinking coffee and eat 2 sets of "Roti Kahwin" or toasted bread. So far, when sitting with male companions, who are younger than me, they enjoy talking about school work, sports, hobbies and studies which in turn, I will show great interest in their conversations. And sometimes, we tell jokes. Telling jokes is indeed fun and it is one of the ways to unwind yourself from all the hard work in school, but what if goes down to a "dirty talk"?
I may be wrong, but most of my friends do admit that a "dirty talk" is always initiated by middle-age men. It might be a hasty conclusion but I am sure you have heard an adage "Kerana nila setitik, rosak susu sebelanga" which is translated as "due to a drop of salt, a whole bucket of milk is spoilt" hehehehe...my own translation la....not necessarily to be correct. It means, just because one or two middle-age men talk dirty, the whole group is labeled as dirty talkers.
Probably you think that it is alright to make a "dirty joke" and say "it is a joke what? it is okay to make people laugh and you need to take it easy", but what if it is too extreme? Here are some examples of "dirty talk" I have listened to and I did not enjoy them at all. Sorry it has to be in Sarawak dialect to preserve the authenticity of the conversation:
Old man: Ish...gatal narr peley aku tok eh! Sik pat lah malam tok? melior jak aku kelak!
Old man: Sik guna kawu banyak duit...bagus kawu makey duit kawu ya pergi ngamput induk kat KL nun.
Old man: Iboh ngembak bini bah. Kelak mun kawu udah tua, expired peley kawu ya!
It becomes more inappropriate when the person/s they dare to say it in front of female colleagues. Well..of course, I would laugh since it is funny but then, I think those phrases should not be spoken out.
It makes me wonder the reason behind making this "dirty talk". To get attention? To make more friends? or to it is just a mid life crisis? The truth is, the negative implications are one will have less friends in school especially among the ladies and secondly, that person will be labeled as a pervert.
I strongly believe that a conversation should be clean and jokes should be moderate. We need to remember that "dirty talks" is not our norm and most family institutions in Malaysia still sees it as a taboo. What more to say in religion?
An excerpt taken from Ephesians 4:29 (Holy Bible)
Think before we talk. Hehehe... 18 SX huh?