16 August 2010

Can Friendship Last Forever?

I remember a quote from the Book of Proverbs saying that "the tongue is the hardest thing to tame". Sometimes, before I go to bed, I always reflect upon what I have done for the day, to see whether I have live the day fruitfully or whether I have hurt someone with my words.

A few years back, I had a friend whom I considered as a dear friend of mine. We used to have lunch together and sometimes, I would visit him at his rented house. I thought everything was well with the two of us until recently, he de-listed me from his FaceBook, did not answer my call and did not reply my SMS. We were completely cut off. However, I still see his names appear in other people's FB as their friend. I tried to contact him but he just won't respond. I asked myself these questions "Was he keeping grudges on me? Was there anything wrong I did to him that I didn't know? Was it something I said before?"

I talked to another friend of mine who is his colleague and I got a wonderful response from him. He said "Willie, what is there to lose? You still have many other friends. Friendship don't always last forever". Oh well, what he said was true and I am beginning to accept his advice. St. Paul once said, "forgetting what is behind and focusing on what is ahead of you". I have lost one and I am getting thousands more friends.

And after I came back from Serian yesterday evening, I was kind of surprised to see my son was already fishing with his new-found friend, a 7-year old girl next door. I am happy that my son is now making more friends.

19 Reptozian Messages:

chubskulit said...

Ouch, too bad he can't tell you what is bothering him. It would bother me so much if I were in your shoe but you are right, there things that never last forever and I guess that includes friendship. I just hope that you and him could talk about it.

wenn said...

well, friendship does come and go but it does last forever too. Byw, I have a new blog, Knowledge.

Mei Teng said...

Some friendships do last. Some don't. Some just fade with time.

BB' L@uRa said...

aku pun ada sorg 'kawan' mcm ya...tetiba jak nya 'de-list' aku...sik tauk pa nok polah nya sakit hati sampei buang aku dr fren list nya. wpun byk gik kwn lain, tp it sure does bothers me...aku plak yg susah hati ngenang...tp, biarlah...pa blh buat...

RoseBelle said...

When a someone you know all of a sudden just drop out of your life for reasons unknown to you, it's hard to accept because you want to know why so at least you can have some closure or if it was a misunderstanding, then, it could be worked out. Some friendship do last a lifetime and some don't. It depends on how you and that other person value the friendship and the reasons for the friendship. Some people are your friends because of what they can get out of you while others are there because they truly care for you.

Hamidah Mohamad said...

I believe your friend may have a reason but without you knowing it may obviously seem unfair.I did that to a friend out of deep depression, regretted it and seek forgiveness..but what has happened cannot be undone.I only have myself to blame and move on.

casper said...

macam budak kecik jak..the least your friend could do is to tell you the reason he backs out..sigh..well people in our lives comes n go.

AmirFX said...

Pelik juak tang ada jak delist cemya jak tanpa sebab... Mungkinnya nak attention lebih kali....

rainfield61 said...

Can friendship last forever?

How can we demand if we fail to fulfill ourselves?

Willie a.k.a Reptoz said...

ChubsKulit :Hi! Long time no see. Yeah..not all friendship last forever.

Wenn :New blog? Okay, will pay a visit.

MeiTeng :Yeah..it is okay if the friendship fades away with time coz it is not drastic.

BB :Cannot help it, memang kita akan susah mengenangkannya.

Willie a.k.a Reptoz said...

Rosebelle :Yeah...i hate it when a relationship ends without explanation.

Hamidah :Ouch! you did that?

Casper :It can happen to adults ma...

AmirFx :Ya lah yg aku pelik tok.

Rainfield :If like dat, cannot expect anything lor...

Cath J said...

I am so sad to hear your story about this friend... But it's happened.. same here... and true.. new friends comes.. we should appreciate to those who really appreciate us as a friend..

cyrildason said...

I also find it weird he did such a thing.. but well... loose one, gain many more :-)

-cyrildason.com

Poetic Shutterbug said...

Some last forever and some don't. The key to the forever lasting ones is mutual respect and unconditional love.

Willie a.k.a Reptoz said...

CathJ :Thanks for understanding.

CyriL :You are absolutely right!

Peotic :Yeah..ideally.

Ghosty Nana said...

Hard to have a long lasting friendship if no forgiveness and tolerance. Sometimes it is out of our control. It happened to me too, suddenly that person get angry of me and bad mouthed me.

MODERN ROBINSON CRUSOE said...

I think this is quite reflective of many in life :D

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your artical is so funny!! it make me so happy!!..................................................................

nicksuneo said...

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